Has anyone seen the new ABC TV show Fresh Off the Boat?  It started a few weeks ago, and although I absolutely cannot stand the opening song if you can call it that, I think it’s a pretty good show.  It is about an Asian American family, Taiwanese, set in the 1990’s, kind of like another ABC show, The Goldberg’s that is set in the 80’s.  I like the fact that the dad is this hard-working guy who wants the best for his family, so much so, that he leaves a somewhat comfortable job in Washington DC, but one where he would never advance and make things substantially better, to go to a new city Orlando, and opens a Western style steak house.  The mom is a typical Asian tiger mom, tough as nails and intense in all her encounters, especially with her three sons who she pushes to excel.  The father is cheery and upbeat trying to attain the American dream for himself and his family, the wife struggles with differences in culture, preferring hers of course, and the boys work to be accepted among their peers in school, the older boy much more into hip hop and American customs and foods rather than those of his Asian background.

I bring this up because last week, I visited a friend of mine whose son had just come back from college, graduating mid-year and then traveling and bumming around a bit, and he brought with him his serious girlfriend, a Taiwanese Asian.  Now let me explain that the son’s mom, is a Taiwanese Asian (and a tiger mom in her own right) and so perhaps it is no surprise that her son would date Asian girls.  But his dad is a white American and the family – they have 4 kids – was already well-assimilated, and aside from the mom, they don’t look particularly Asian.  I know the new graduate well because I have been close to that family for years, so I spoke to him to ask him about it.  I know that in college he wasted little time in dating Asian girls, Chinese girls in particular.  I wanted to know why, and not just the obvious that it was in his genes, or that he wanted someone like his mother.  In fact, just the opposite, he wanted someone a little less driven that his mother, lol.

His answers surprised me.  None of that Asian girls are so beautiful, and his girlfriend is cute, but not any kind of perfect specimen, actually she was not heavy but not thin, while he is thin.  And none of that Asians are smart thing.  No being loyal to his mom’s culture.  He told me he actually had a white girlfriend for a bit as a freshman, but that he gravitated to Asian students because although he had grown up assimilated and never really hung out with Asian kids, he felt that the more he was with them in college, the more he felt comfortable with them.  And the more he liked the company of Asian girls.  That they were kind and sweet, generous in their demeanors, genuine and not competitive in nature, and supportive of their guys.  He saw why his dad had married one.  Yes, there were the looks and the smarts.  But he made his choice on what was on the inside.  And good for him.

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OK, so Asian women are absolutely beautiful, right?  I mean that is nothing new.  And before anyone out there gets mad because they think I am objectifying, then hell, I guess I am.  But it is a compliment.  And anyone who knows me knows I love Asian ladies not just because of their beauty but also because of the way they are, their values, their intellect, their class.  I could go on.  But hey this is a society where outward beauty is judged as well, fairly or unfairly, and add to that outward beauty of Asian women their inner beauty, and I carry no guilt.  So forgive me if you wish, or don’t if you don’t wish.

A couple days ago in the break room, a bunch of us got into a conversation about Asian girls.  And FYI, included in the chat were a few girls, including a girl from Taiwan.  So there.  We had received a number of emails over time about a girl from this country or whose parents were from that one, some guy saying Chinese girls were the prettiest Asian girls, another Korean, another Japanese, you get it.  So we started talking about that.  Which Asian girls are the prettiest?

Now as a disclaimer, I told the group, and they told me I was a copout, I said I couldn’t answer, that they all were equally stunning.  And even though I was called a coward for not taking a stand, I truly meant it.  They are all amazing to me.  But the others got into it.  And before the whole deal started we all apologized in advance to our Chinese Taiwan co-worker and she said, “No worries, bring it on, losers.”  So one of our programmers immediately said Vietnamese girls.  No surprise there.  We all knew he loved them.  The guy is as white as they come, he was from Texas.  They had this influx of immigrants from Vietnam some years back and he had this Vietnamese girlfriend in high school and only dated Vietnamese girls and had a Vietnamese wife, lol.  What else would he say?  Another guy said Malaysia.  Our admin manager said, Korean girls.  Ever since that Psy video, Gangnam Style, and all those hot Korean dancers, and damn they were hot, he just couldn’t get over those girls.  His dream is to go to South Korea and bring one of them back.  Good luck with that, Benny.

One of the girls chimed saying Japanese girls.  She loved their long straight black hair, lol.  Chinese said the girl from Taiwan.  Big shock.  The boss came in and said Indonesian girls.  He had been there some years back and would tell us stories.  Maybe he was right.  I said, “What about Filipinas?”  They are in that group.  Our HR guy said, “Yep, Filipinas.”  Another guy said girls from Thailand.  Can’t be beat.  Another girl who works with us said what about Laotian and Cambodian girls?  True that.  The boss added Singapore.  A couple other people came in and we heard Japanese and Korean and Chinese and Filipinas again.

Look, they are all lovely and they are all sweet, whether they are there or whether they are here in the good old USA.  If you like Asian women, or if you want to know if you do, we have several free sites that we recommend here: DateSitesReview.com – Asian Dating.  By the way, this is a pretty good site to join: AsianDating.com.  So, find your lovely Asian girl.  You will not be sorry.

A buddy of mine went on a sex tour to a few Asian countries a few years ago.  Let me add right away that I do not recommend or endorse or condone anything like this and I don’t even think anyone needs to do it; there are plenty of women here and not as hookers if you look properly.  This is just a story, things he told me.  Anyway, he went with a friend of his who had done it before and arranged it all for the two of them.  They hit Japan, Hong Kong, Thailand and the Philippines.  It was a two week tour.  My buddy decided about 6 or 7 years ago that he would never get married and just wanted to enjoy himself, and what is his enjoyment?  Sex.  He makes enough money so that he can travel around – he does it a lot, and after some rough patches in his life, he just wants to be happy and have fun.  And what is that happiness and fun.  Yes, sex.

Now the guy loves all women, but especially Asian women.  And it’s not because of some stereotype like submissiveness, but simply because he loves petite women, and he feels he can always find what he likes with more Asian women than others.  And there are others, non-Asian petite women, plenty, but this is his view.  By the way, if you read my column from a couple weeks back, you may remember a story about a friend’s brother who loves Asian women.  This is my buddy, the brother of that guy.  Maybe it’s a family thing, lol.

So anyway, he went on this tour.  He went to different places to meet different women in the different countries and cities, and he found two places where things were great, one terrible.  Now mind you, this was a sex tour, basically going to certain countries and hitting the hookers from the bars and clubs, legal in the areas with women of legal age.  He was careful to be sure everyone was over 18 and he says they were.  And he was never one to put himself at risk with any authorities by dabbling in things that were not legal.  And by the way, I am not here to judge any other risks he takes by doing what he did and still does.  He tells me that everyone who looks to hook up does the same if they buy dinner and flowers, etc. before a date that is for sure one that will end up in sex.

The great places with the nicest cutest girls were in Thailand and the Philippines.  The worst was in Japan.  Even though he said in Japan they have these places you can go to where you are in a huge tub and as many women as you want are naked with you and wash you which he felt was very erotic, to them when it came right down to it, it was all about the job, money.  He understands that money is a big deal for these things but unlike the girls in Thailand and the Philippines, he always felt they were on the job.  He couldn’t get comfortable with the things said and queried.  The Thai girls and the Filipinas didn’t focus on the cash, they just seemed to enjoy themselves and wanted to have fun too.  That made it fun for him.  Those girls were also more personable, and happy.

Look, it could be he went to the wrong place in Japan, and that where he was in Thailand and the Philippines the girls fooled him.  Maybe.  But his friend who was with him felt the same with those he encountered.  My buddy spent plenty of dough, several thousand bucks, but I think, I know he could have found sweet Asian hookups right here in the good ol’ USA had he just joined one or more of the free Asian dating sites we review on this site.  You can find your Asian lovely lady for a hookup or something else by joining one or more sites here – DateSitesReview.com – Asian Dating Sites.  You will end up happy and you won’t have to mortgage your house to do it or travel around the world.  🙂

When I was getting my graduate degree, yes, I do have a graduate degree, I am ejamakated, lol, there was this incredibly beautiful Chinese girl in my class.  Because I knew the topic of the class pretty well, I would hold library study sessions with a few people, including the girl.  Now I did not know at the time she thought anything of me except for being the smart guy, at least with economics.  Her name was Lena, well, that was what she wanted people to call her.  She had a Chinese name but didn’t go by it.  Lena was from Taiwan getting her master’s degree, and was fairly quiet but had a good sense of humor.  She must have, because she laughed at my jokes.  🙂  Lena was very quiet, and she seemed very shy.  Now I am not trying to say she was any stereotype of a submissive Asian girl, hell, I didn’t even know what that was then.  I am just saying she was quiet and shy.  And nice.  She was always very nice and polite.  I am remembering more as I type this, lol.

After our finals, a bunch of us students including Lena went to a local watering hole to drown our grade worries in some liquefied relief.  If I remember correctly, and I didn’t remember everything that night, lol, there were 7 of us and we drank pretty heavily.  I didn’t so much but enough to make me happier school was over.  Done, finito.  A degree if we didn’t flunk.  That last day was one of 4 finals, and studying for it was crazy.  An all-nighter for many, and then the exams.  So all of us were thrilled to death it was over, at least for that semester and we were only too glad to be out of school and down the block at the Tavern.  The Tavern was this sort of run down, dingy kind of place, with old wall paper and tables but we loved it.  I miss that damn place.  They had great food, cheap too.  Watered the drinks down a bit but still, it was an institution and I think anyone who would go there probably belonged in an institution!

We first had beers, all of us, including the 3 girls, Lena too.  One girl, damn I can’t remember her name, just that she was blonde, kind of big and tall and had the strangest glasses, said she didn’t drink but she knocked that beer down in a hurry.  Maybe it was the post-test giddiness.  Other people from another school nearby came in to have fun and after a bit it was pretty rowdy in the Tavern.  We started drinking more of course.  And that was when the weirdest thing happened.  Lena asked me if she could talk to me.  I said sure, so we went to a dark corner of the place.  It was dark anyway but there the light bulb had been out and that part of the bar, with a booth there was super dark.  I mean you couldn’t see a few inches in front of you.

I sat down on the wall side of the booth and Lena sat down next to me.  Without warning, she put her hand on my crotch and started well, messing around there!  I was shocked.  But at the same time, I was glad so I immediately decided to not do what as an idiot high school and college guy I did, which was to object, or to say, “Are you sure you want to do this?”  Lena said, “Hey, don’t worry, I am not drunk, I want this.”  Who was I to object.  We started kissing and Lena undid my jeans and her head went into my lap and well, what can I say?  Unfortunately, she left 2 days later to go back to Taiwan.  I wish I had tried to keep in touch, but I think that was how she wanted things.  Shy Lena acting not so shy and then disappearing into my dreams.  And me in hers as well, I hope.

I can’t tell you that if you join a free dating site like FindAAsianLover.com or AsiaFriendFinder.com you will get your own Lena.  But you very well might.  Those two sites do deliver, I know, trust me.  Hey, you may want to have a meaningful relationship and that’s OK too.  Whatever you seek from dating a beautiful Asian lady, please check either or both sites.  You can thank me later.  🙂