(I am a guy as if you didn’t know that and so everything I write comes from a guy’s perspective. Sometimes I have others write this column, but when that happens, they are all men. So I am pleased to tell you that this column has been written by lady. It’s a good column with good advice for men who want to date black women. Here you go.)
My name is Keisha, also known as Keesh to my friends. I am a 34 year old African American woman, with about an average body, 5’ 6”, and I have nice breasts and a great booty. I am on two of the sites reviewed here and I have dated and continue to date guys who contact me and who I contact. Now that does not mean all the guys who are on the other side of my emails or notes, but some. You wouldn’t expect me to date all, would you? I wouldn’t have time to breathe. And I don’t agree to date some even if I have the time, because of how I am approached. As you probably have guessed I am in this thing for a good time, casual get-togethers, hookups. When I have time of course, because I can be busy. But when I am free to date I love being freaky. OK, so now you know some about me.
I am here to give some advice to guys, white, black, Asian, whoever, who want to get with me or girls like me. I do want to say right now that not all of us black girls are alike in what we want and what we expect from a guy. Like other women, we can range from wine me, dine me before you **** me, to enough with the talk, let’s just go! You may have to figure it out a bit with a few of us who are complicated, lol. It is true, at least in my opinion, that black girls are a bit more aggressive than white or others. We know what we want, and we have no problem telling you. We also don’t play games, we don’t like wasting our time either. Especially when what we want is some fun and I don’t mean going bowling. I mean sexual fun.
So you want to know how to approach women like me? Black women who want to be freaky? Be yourself, be honest, be respectful. And don’t worry about trying to impress. Yes, some women like to see bling and want some of that, but you would be surprised at how many black women just don’t give a **** about that ****. Hey, if we are looking for a husband that’s different. Yes, we want to be able to get things, shoes, do up our hair nice, as examples, but I think that’s like any girl. When we want the nasty we want it and we are aggressive about it. We can take charge if you are a bit nervous. Especially if you are nice and polite. We love that. And it is possible that we can be freaky and nasty (in a good way) but still act nice ourselves. I don’t lack from confidence and if you are bit nervous it’s OK. But don’t harp on any black/white thing. I get it that you are attracted to me because of my skin color and attitude. Fine. No need to tell me, I don’t need to hear it, lol. Making me laugh gets you points but don’t sweat that. The bedroom is more important.
Personally, I like to handle it if you know what I mean. I like oral, getting and giving. But if you want to get it, you best give it baby. I like attention paid to all of my body but especially those things that protrude in some way. As someone looking for a hookup, I don’t want bull****. I want to get going. Feel you need to do something nice? Make me dinner. Have some wine available. I don’t care about flowers. Sometimes I can go for something unusual or different but only once we get some normal stuff done. Oh, and it’s important you practice good hygiene. I don’t want some guy who doesn’t know what a shower is. Don’t come with funk. I will be fresh and clean, you be the same. Sounds like something obvious, but it’s not to some. Be ready for sex if that is what we are planning, and with me it is. Don’t be like you have to do this or that. Be ready. I will be. If I need to come to you, don’t be making excuses. Sometimes I can get you here at my place, sometimes not. So that’s it. I hope this helped. See ya. Maybe.